Dear God

Tori Kelly has a song called 'Dear No One' that speaks about finding oneself having so much affection for a life partner that she does not know what to do with it but to dedicate it as a song to an unknown future partner, while at the same time, avoiding the dealings of human interactions.

The lyrics speaks of how she avoids accountability but yet desires deep affection form a soulmate. This did not come as an alarm to me until I realized that she is a professing Christian. This is by no means a condemnation of Tori but it is however a highlight of what a lot of single Christians are adopting today.

We live in a society that is filled with people that are difficult and a pain to deal with. But rather than taking it on as a biblical responsibility to bear with each other as the apostle Paul often encourages to, we find ways to shield ourselves from such dealings and avoid all these hardships, all in all, while having a deep sense of desiring a soulmate that reflects our perfect partner.

This is where the problem lies, where the need to bear with each other is avoided, while seeking the perfect partner to fulfill what the crippling society cannot give. We face people all day long that we don't like, and in turn shapes our inclination of what a perfect partner is  and find fulfillment in them because the rest of society is difficult to deal with.

I sense the same issues in my life where the cold individualistic society leads me to feel utterly lonely and disconnected, just as I know many people do. We then trade what is lacking in society and made it a requirement to our potential partner to have. But in the crippling loneliness that is so evidently existing, it drives so much more desire for the soulmate affection that becomes somewhat unhealthy.

I am constantly seeing people in my life getting into relationships more for the reason of the aching void of loneliness and affection than for any other reason. All at the same time, paying little to no attention to God.

While I do enjoy Tori's 'Dear No One,' I cannot help but to want to advice Tori to stop writing songs to this unknown person and channel that affection to being in love with God. Because there seems to be a problematic issue of wanting independence, avoiding accountability, and shutting people out... all of which goes against the nature of Christian witnessing.

There are people who still hold on to loneliness to strongly that instead of channeling that loneliness towards seeking affection on God, they are driven to seek out affection from a partner.

I am sadden by friends who got caught up by this and heading straight on to the road of relationship out of loneliness... while their desire of God has been deceptively misplaced. While they only long for such affection from a future soulmate, God waits and long for theirs.